“The missing piece in the puzzle of achieving maximum health and wellbeing”
By Dr Clare Caldwell
One view of emotions prevalent when I was growing up was that you should be able to put a lid on your emotions and be in control of them.
There were all sorts of sayings around which emphasised this:- don’t rock the boat, don’t make waves, I have a broad back, button it, too many saying to mention here.
All of these ‘words of wisdom’ taught us to be stoic and just put our heads down and get on with what ever life was throwing at us without showing how we felt or making a fuss. Or changing what was going on. Everyone had to cope with difficulties I was told. Don’t let people who are upsetting you know how you feel.
If we were not in control of our emotions it was viewed as a character defect.
This approach emotions was passed down through the generations going back to Victorian times and possibly earlier than that.
Emotions have been seen as irrational feelings and just in the mind. One dictionary definition of feelings is ‘ an idea or belief especially and irrational one’
But is this true?
We have laboured under these assumptions for a long time. What effect does it have on our health and wellbeing if any?
To answer this we need to look at recent research about the connection between the mind/emotions and the way the body works. Commonly known as the mind-body connection.
What are the purpose of emotions and is it a problem that many of us have been taught to bottle up how we feel when it comes to our emotions?
Candace Pert in her peer reviewed research has explained that emotions are neuropeptides.
There have physical substance and are electrical and chemical messengers within the brain and body. They transmit messages.
She is not the only scientist to realise emotions are much more important than we realised.
Research shows emotions can activate old survival circuits and generate the fight or flight response. When activated for too long this causes stress.
Most people will be aware of the damage long term stress does to the human body. Not just the emotional pain of it.
Web med lists the following:-
10 Health Problems Related to Stress
- · Heart disease.
- · Asthma. …
- · Obesity. …
- · Diabetes. …
- · Headaches. …
- · Depression and anxiety. …
- · Gastrointestinal problems. …
- · Alzheimer’s disease
- · Accelerated ageing
- · Premature death
To this list we need to add ME CFS IBS and Fibromyalgia. There are many more.
In what other ares of our lives would we ignore an important communication?
If someone tells us to move our car because it will get towed away as we have parked in the wrong place we would do it. We would not want to have to deal with the consequences.
The attitude to emotions as something irrational and to be controlled has got to change.
Emotions are not a weakness of character but a physical fact and a form of communication meant to guide us to ensure we are physically safe and as far as possible living a happy healthy life.
We need to become aware that until we learn to listen to our emotions and speak their language we cannot experience full health and wellbeing.
I developed ME as a result of not listening properly to the message behind my emotions.
Mickel Therapy gave me the tools to understand the message behind my emotions and the tools and the courage to take the actions I needed to take to reclaim my health and my life.
Goodbye 15 years of dreadful ill health and unhappiness.
Hello the rest of my happy healthy life with full energy and no symptoms! 11 years and counting!
Former ME sufferer